The arrest of actor Aditya Pancholi’s son Sooraj Pancholi, following the suicide of his ex-girlfriend Jiah Khan, is worth debating on whether it is fair to call a suicide resulting from a lover’s tiff as abetment. Sooraj was arrested after Jiah’s mother handed a six page letter, allegedly written by Jiah in which she blames her boyfriend for abuse.
One life has
already gone, now why are we killing the other’s life with this media trial?
One needs to understand that the stigma attached to this controversy is
affecting his life both personally and professionally. Also the suicide letter doesn't say she was raped by him. It says- "After the rape I didn't deserve all this”.
During a break
up, it’s natural to feel depressed, but one needs to be strong and rational.
People who support Jiah’s mother’s efforts to put Sooraj behind the bars are
being emotionally swept away by the incident. Jiah couldn't deal with her own problems. She
could have walked out instead of just blaming him. In relationship such things
happen but that doesn't mean one should end his/her life. Life has bigger
things stored in it. The whole thing is very unfortunate. People face bigger problems in life and still live on the hope to see better days in life.
It is
basically the inability of the youngsters to cope with the frustration that pushes
them beyond the edge of sanity. The problem is that they are given everything
on the platter, so they just don’t know how to solve their problems. The difference
between how youngsters behave and are perceived by others leads to imbalance in
the confidence levels. They see themselves through other’s vision, so if a guy
or a girl tells them that they are not good enough, they take it as a gospel
truth and this fiction between, ID, ego and super ego, leads to emotional
failure, pushing them towards suicide at times.
The arrest
of Sooraj Pancholi has surprised the legal experts in the country because of
the lack of convictions in such cases. Evidence in this case is unconvincing. Even
if the letter is dated, it doesn't mean the person had immediate provocation to
commit suicide.
In cases
where cops have suicide notes, there is no clear trend that they actually end
up as evidence to convict people. In 2008, actor Naveen Nischol and his
brother, Pravin were acquitted of charges of abetting the suicide of former's wife, Geetanjali. She had left a suicide note holding Navin responsible. The acquittal
order came after defense lawyer said Geetanjali had taken the step while
suffering from depression and there was no evidence that she was pushed to
suicide.
A Mumbai court
discharged pilot Arjun Menon for abetting air hostess Sucheta Anand in 2008,
saying there was not enough evidence to try him. Police had relied on SMSes
exchanges between the two before she ended her life.
The Supreme Court’s
2010 order, which said “Abetment,
involves a mental process of instigating a person or intentionally aiding a
person for committing suicide. Without a positive act or on the part of the
accused to instigate or aid in committing suicide, conviction can’t be
sustained.
Similarly in
the recent case, there is no evidence to prove that Sooraj Pancholi deliberately
provoked or instigated Jiah to commit suicide. We are now more or less aware of
the end result of this case. Then why this melodrama and media trial?
Emotional
Learning:-
Each
individual’s capacity to handle stress differs. Youngsters in relationships should
learn to deal with such situations and get out of them with a positive mindset.
Also these days children don’t go to their parents, for help which I feel,
needs to change. Whether you live in a joint family or nuclear family a
dialogue has to be there between parents and the children. Parents have to ask
about how the child’s day went. It’s not policing, it’s being involved in your
child’s activities. Chat at the dinner table, watch TV together- the more involved
you are, the more a child thinks before doing something drastic and therefore
will not take such an extreme step. He/she will not want to hurt the parent.
The more inert parents remain, the more the children won’t feel anything for
them.
So, it was
on Jiah to decide whether she should have killed herself or instead should have
gone for a cup of coffee.
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